There's been a debate recently at my place of work about sex before marriage. And it was everyone against me.
They say something along the line of " losses up, you're too stiff", " have sex for the fun of it with a dude that's giving"," I'll hook you up with a dude that you take to an orgy house ", " you need to learn all the styles before marriage" " test what you wanna buy" etc.
I'm not religious, but I understand that marriage is not a joke and there are more important things in a relationship than sex.
Prioritizing sex in a relationship is an unhealthy practice. It not only prevents the basic ingredients of a healthy relationship, but it also has other implications.

Me, I'm so health conscious, I prioritize my health first. Mental and physical. Condom can't prevent all kinds of diseases and I hate surprises. So, before I wed, we have to do all the necessary tests just to be sure we check the boxes, instead of having sex to test what I wanna be married to. Self-love and Love itself are not being stupid.

Great article. I applauded.